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1:1 Schema & Relationship Coaching

Private coaching for women ready to understand and change the patterns affecting their relationships

You may already have a great deal of insight into yourself.

You may understand your attachment style, recognise some of your relationship patterns, know the red flags and even know, intellectually, what you should be doing differently.

But knowing isn't always enough.

When attraction, attachment, fear of loss, self-doubt or old relationship patterns are activated, it can become much harder to trust yourself and make the choices you know are right for you.

This is where deeper, individualised work can help.

My 1:1 Schema & Relationship Coaching is designed to help you understand the patterns beneath the surface and begin changing them

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Almost 30 Years of Psychological Experience Behind My Coaching Work

Before moving exclusively into coaching in 2024, I worked as a registered psychologist for almost 30 years, from 1995–2024, including 18 years as a clinical psychologist.

I established my own private practice in 2001 and continued working in private practice until June 2024.  I am also an Advanced Certified Schema Therapist, Supervisor and Trainer and have spent many years helping people understand and change deeply ingrained emotional and relationship patterns.

Today, I bring this depth of experience to my work as a Schema & Relationship Coach.

My coaching takes a focused, collaborative approach for women who want to understand themselves at a deeper level, break recurring patterns and make more conscious, self-honouring choices in their relationships and lives.

This Coaching Is For You If...

  • You understand your patterns intellectually, but still find yourself repeating them.

  • You tend to over-give, over-explain or minimise your needs in relationships

  • You second-guess your feelings or instincts and want to feel more anchored in yourself

  • You are drawn to emotionally unavailable, inconsistent or self-focused partners and want to understand why

  • You stay in relationships or situationships longer than you know is good for you.

  • You value psychologically informed, depth-oriented work rather than surface strategies

  • You are ready to engage thoughtfully with the work and reflect between sessions

  • You want to work on an issue or pattern that affects other areas of your life, like work or family (eg, people pleasing, perfectionism, self-doubt, reduced self-worth). 

Discover & Rewrite Your Relationship Patterns

Relationship patterns rarely come out of nowhere.

The ways we respond to closeness, uncertainty, rejection, conflict and emotional distance are often connected to much older beliefs and emotional patterns.

In Schema Therapy, we refer to these as schemas - deeply held patterns that develop around ourselves, other people and relationships, often in response to important emotional needs that weren't adequately met earlier in life.

Over time, we develop ways of coping with these patterns.

You might become highly accommodating.

You might work hard to earn someone's love.

You might ignore your own needs to keep the peace.

You might become especially drawn to people whose emotional unavailability feels strangely familiar.

Or you might know something isn't right but find it incredibly difficult to leave.

Understanding the pattern underneath the pattern can change the way you see yourself and the choices you make.

Together, we:

  • Identify the schemas and emotional patterns shaping your relationship choices

  • Understand where these patterns came from and how they operate now

  • Gently shift long-standing ways of relating to yourself and others

  • Rewrite your love template so you can make calmer, more grounded decisions

  • Strengthen your internal sense of worth, safety and direction in relationships

I draw on schema-based coaching and incorporate EMDR-informed and imagery techniques where appropriate. The focus is always on insight that translates into real-world change.

I intentionally work with only a small number of women at a time so I can offer depth, continuity and genuine support.

Two Ways To Work With Me 1:1

There are two ways to work with me privately.  You do not need to commit to three months of coaching to get started.  You can begin with a single 90-minute session and decide from there what kind of support feels right for you

1. Individual Coaching

 Your Initial Session - 90 Minutes

Our first session gives us time to explore what's happening for you in depth.

We'll look at your current concerns, relevant relationship history and the patterns you would most like to understand or change.

I'll begin helping you identify the schemas, core beliefs, coping responses and relationship dynamics that may be contributing to what you're experiencing.

I'll share my initial understanding of the patterns I'm seeing and we'll identify the areas that may be most helpful for you to focus on.

You'll leave the session with greater clarity about what's happening beneath the surface and some clear direction about your next steps.

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Choose an available appointment and pay securely online. 

Investment: $500 + GST ($550 AUD incl. GST)

If you're unsure or have a question for me, please email me,  I'll personally review what you've shared and let you know whether I think my coaching is likely to be a good fit.

 

Ongoing/Follow-up Individual Sessions - 75 Minutes

If you'd like to continue working together after your initial session, you can book ongoing 75-minute coaching sessions as needed.

Some women come for support around a particular relationship or decision. Others choose to work with me over a longer period as they begin identifying and changing deeper patterns.

Investment: $500 + GST ($550 AUD incl. GST) per session

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2. Coaching Package (3 months)

 

For women who are ready to make this work a priority and would like greater continuity, structure and support, I offer a more intensive three-month coaching experience.

Rather than working from session to session, we'll develop a clear understanding of the patterns affecting you and use the three months to work systematically towards change.

What's Included

One 90-minute Clarity & Direction Session

We begin by taking a deeper look at your history, current circumstances, schemas, core beliefs, relationship patterns and the areas where you most want change.  This gives us the foundation for our work together.

Your Personalised Schema & Coaching Plan

Following our initial work together, I'll develop a personalised formulation to help us make sense of the patterns that have been shaping your relationships and emotional responses.

This will bring together the key schemas and core beliefs that appear most relevant for you, how they may have developed through your earlier experiences, the coping patterns and relationship dynamics that have grown around them, and how these patterns may be playing out in your life now.

We'll use this formulation to identify the key areas we'll focus on during our coaching and the changes we want to work towards together.

You'll receive a written summary so you have a clear, personalised framework for understanding your patterns and the direction of our work.

Six 75-minute Private Coaching Sessions

We'll meet twice per month across the three months, giving us the continuity to work more deeply with the patterns we've identified.

Our sessions aren't simply about understanding why you do what you do.  Depending on what you need, we'll work on changing the deeper beliefs and emotional patterns that keep you stuck, strengthening healthier responses and applying what you're learning to your relationships and everyday life.

Weekday Between-Session Support

You'll have access to me via email or Voxer for brief check-ins, reflections and coaching guidance between sessions.

This can be particularly useful when something happens in real time, perhaps you're dating someone new, struggling with a boundary, feeling triggered by someone's behaviour or questioning your own judgement and you want support applying what we're working on rather than waiting until our next session.

Lifetime Access to Love Wisely

You'll also receive complimentary lifetime access to my Love Wisely self-study program, giving you additional teaching, exercises and resources to deepen and reinforce the work we're doing together.

Investment

$1,500 + GST per month for 3 months
($1,650 AUD incl. GST per month)

OR

$4,650 AUD incl. GST paid upfront
Save $300

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Which Option Is Right For Me?

Individual Coaching may be right for you if you have a particular issue or relationship you'd like help with, you'd like to experience working with me before deciding what you need, or you simply prefer the flexibility of booking sessions as required.

3-Month Private Coaching may be right for you if you know there are deeper or recurring patterns you'd like to change and you're ready to give this area of your life consistent attention and support over the next three months.

You don't need to have this figured out before we meet.  You can simply begin with your initial 90-minute session.

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This Work Is About More Than Understanding Why

Many of the women I work with are already highly insightful.

They've read the books. They've listened to the podcasts. They may have been to therapy. They often understand a great deal about attachment, childhood experiences and relationship patterns.

And yet, when something happens in a relationship, the old response can still take over.

You know you shouldn't chase, but the anxiety feels unbearable.

You know you need a boundary, but guilt stops you from holding it.

You know the relationship isn't giving you what you need but the thought of letting go feels even worse.

This is why my work doesn't stop at insight.

Depending on what you need, I draw on Schema Therapy, attachment-based approaches, imagery and experiential work, mindfulness and compassion-focused approaches, DBT-informed skills and online EMDR-informed methods.

Where we're working with deeper core beliefs and longstanding emotional patterns, I may use experiential methods to help shift these patterns at an emotional level, rather than simply understanding them intellectually.

The aim is to help you recognise when an old pattern has been activated, understand what's happening inside you and increasingly respond from a more grounded, self-respecting and authentic place, what Schema Therapy describes as your Healthy Adult Mode.

The Kind of Change We're Working Towards

This work can help you become better able to:

  • Trust what you're noticing rather than automatically overriding yourself.
  • Recognise when an old relationship pattern is being activated.
  • Distinguish intense chemistry from genuine compatibility.
  • Express your needs more clearly.
  • Set and maintain healthier boundaries.
  • Stop over-functioning or taking excessive responsibility for relationships.
  • Make decisions based on what is actually good for you, not simply what you're afraid of losing.
  • Stay connected to yourself while becoming close to another person.
  • Approach dating and relationships with greater clarity, confidence and self-trust.
  • The goal isn't to become perfect at relationships.
  • It's to become much more aware of what is driving you and increasingly able to choose differently.

FAQs

Still don't have the answers you were looking for? Then please contact me hello@drgemmagladstone.com