Love Wisely
A group coaching experience for women
ready to change their relationship
story for good!
12 weeks to rewrite your outdated love template so you can end the cycle of unfulfilling
relationships and start creating the kind of love that actually lasts.
With Dr Gemma Gladstone – former clinical psychologist with
30 years of experience & expertise in psychology and human behaviour.
Yes, I'm Ready to Finally Break the Pattern!If you've been thinking: "Why do I keep getting involved with emotionally unavailable or narcissistic men?" - you're in the right place!
Maybe you've done some healing work. The therapy, the journaling, the "I attract what I believe I deserve" affirmations.
And you still end up here – drawn to the same type of partner, wondering how someone who's done so much work can still get this wrong.
You second-guess your instincts, then realise later (usually too late) that you were right the whole time. You've walked on eggshells, gone quiet, made yourself smaller to keep the peace. You've excused red flags you'd spot in a heartbeat for anyone else.
And the most frustrating part is that everywhere else, you've got it together. It's love that leaves you disappointed, disempowered, wondering what you're missing.
So the question starts creeping in: will this ever change? Or am I just unlucky in love?
The truth is, you don’t need fixing. You’re already a thoughtful, capable, deeply valuable woman with so much to offer the right person.
The real issue isn’t you.
It’s the layers of emotional conditioning, early learning and protective patterns that have shaped your relationship choices - without you even realising it.
This is your Love Template. It quietly influences attraction, attachment and relationship choices outside your awareness.
And it’s why you keep chasing familiar but unhealthy relationship patterns in who you’re attracted to, how you show up in relationships and how long you stay.
So if you’re ready to rewrite your Love Template and finally shift how you see yourself + your relationships – let’s untangle it together.
I'm Ready!This isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about finally understanding yourself in a way that changes everything.
About Dr. Gemma Gladstone
Hi, I’m Dr. Gemma Gladstone and after nearly three decades as a clinical psychologist, I now focus primarily on coaching women who are ready to change their relationship stories for good.
For 25+ years, I’ve helped women uncover the deeper emotional patterns - including schemas and attachment wounds - that shape their relationship choices, their self-worth and the way they show up in love.
I help emotionally intelligent, self-reflective women who are tired of repeating painful cycles with emotionally unavailable or narcissistic men. Women who know they’re ready for something better, but just haven’t had the right map (yet!).
Through the lens of Schema Therapy and relationship psychology, I show you how to identify your relationships patterns, reconnect with your instincts and begin choosing love that feels secure, safe and meaningful.
This work is deeply personal to me. I’ve seen firsthand how powerful it is when you can stops blaming yourself, starts trusting your inner wisdom and realise that things can change!
Over the 12 weeks of Love Wisely, I’ll be your coach and companion, offering guidance, insight and support as you make meaningful changes that will stay with you for life.
What would change if you truly understood yourself in love?
Love Wisely is a transformative group coaching program for thoughtful, emotionally aware women who are tired of falling for emotionally unavailable or narcissistic men and are ready to understand why it keeps happening, so they can finally break the pattern!
This isn’t just another course on red flags or dating advice.
It’s an in-depth journey into your unconscious love template - the emotional map shaped by your early experiences, core beliefs (schemas) and coping patterns that quietly influence who you’re attracted to, how you show up in relationships and how long you stay.
In Love Wisely, you’ll learn:
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What your love template is made of and how it’s been shaping your relationship choices
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How core schemas (or emotional templates) like abandonment, self-sacrifice, subjugation and emotional deprivation play out in your relational life
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Why the “pull” you feel toward certain men is often schema chemistry, not reflective of emotional compatibility and how to tell the difference
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How to spot emotionally unavailable dynamics early, before you get attached
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How to rebuild your self-belief and self-trust so you stop second-guessing yourself
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And most importantly, how to rewrite your love template so it becomes a new internal guide one that helps you recognise emotional safety and build real connection with someone who can meet you where you're at!
And above all, know that you are worth it!
Read what past group members have said:
Tayla Hickie - Founding Group member
"Gemma and the group helped me to not feel alone in my journey anymore. This program has completely shifted how I see myself and relationships. I used to feel anxious and doubt myself constantly. Now I feel stronger, more self-aware and I know how to date in a way that honours my needs. It’s been life-changing” - Love Wisely Student
Rebecca R - Group member 2026
“Working with Gemma has really helped me finally understand why I always seemed to end up with emotionally unavailable guys. For the first time, I can see my patterns clearly and I have a plan on how to start changing them. I'm feeling hopeful.”
Maddie (30 Sydney), 1:1 Coaching client
"Doing schema coaching completely changed the way I saw myself and other people. Gemma has a great way of explaining things and making everything seem easy. I've had lots of therapy before but this was the most helpful thing I've ever done."
Kylie Alvarez - Group member 2025
"After a very tough start to 2025, a friend recommended the Love Wisely course to me. I thought 'I've got nothing to lose and everything to gain' so I signed up. And I am so deeply thankful that I did. Dr Gemma, in her caring, honest and genuine manner, educated me on how to date intentionally and with clarity, putting myself first and learning self care techniques to help me on my journey. I can't thank you enough Gemma."
Larissa - Group member 2025
“The Love Wisely group gave me a totally new lens on dating, attraction and relationships. Understanding schema chemistry helped me stop chasing familiar but unhealthy patterns and start prioritising emotional availability, kindness and consistency. As a result, made different choices and am now in a secure, loving relationship with someone I would have previously not gone on a second date with. The insights from the course have been genuinely life-changing. Thank you Gemma!"
Merran - Group member 2025
"Before the Love Wisely program I didn’t fully understand the patterns I kept repeating in relationships. Now I feel more self-aware, grounded and confident in setting boundaries and choosing connections that feel healthy and aligned."
What's Included Exactly?
Love Wisely combines deep psychological insight with a new way of understanding yourself in love, so you can recognise the schemas and patterns shaping your relationships, trust yourself more deeply and make wiser choices about who you let into your life.
Together, we bring the hidden processes that influence attraction, attachment and relationship choices out into the light. You’ll begin to understand your own Love Template, recognise unhealthy dynamics earlier and become clearer about what emotional health and availability actually look and feel like.
And you won’t be doing this work alone. Love Wisely is a live, small-group coaching experience, where you’ll learn not only through your own insights and coaching, but through the experiences, questions and breakthroughs of other women. There is something incredibly powerful about seeing these patterns unfold in real life and discovering that you are not alone in them.
This is not a passive program. Over three months, you’ll have the space, guidance, tools and ongoing support to put what you’re learning into practice as your life and relationships unfold.
Because Love Wisely isn’t simply about dating differently. It’s about understanding yourself differently, changing the patterns that have kept you stuck and giving yourself the best possible chance of creating healthy, secure love.
Weekly Live Group Coaching
12-weeks of expert support & coaching delivered online (weekly live group coaching calls 90 mins in duration). Three months later we have an additional catch-up session.
Access to Recordings
Replays of all live coaching sessions available via a private portal, so you don't miss anything!
Full life-time Access to Love Wisely Foundations
You'll have full access to all the Lessons you'll need to rewrite your love template. Love Wisely Foundations is a standalone self-study course which includes the full Love Wisely curriculum (8-module program). You'll have lifetime access when you join the Love Wisely Group Experience.
Key Learning Resources
Worksheets, tools, and reflective exercises to keep you focused and guide your growth
Guided Meditations
Guided imagery & meditations aimed at both schema healing (inner child healing); self-compassion and skill implementation.
New Love Wisely Community
Access a community of support, guidance and encouragement between calls. Get answers to questions, celebrate wins and keep moving forward with a group of like-minded women
A Look at the Core Pillars We'll Be Working Through Together
Love Wisely is a guided process of intentionally rewriting your Love Template, not simply learning more about relationships.
Across our 3-months together, we’ll bring the hidden schemas, attachment patterns and emotional processes shaping your relationships into awareness, then work with them in real time so you can begin making different choices in love.
Through guided teaching, mindfulness, reflection, group discussion and live coaching, you’ll learn to recognise your patterns as they unfold, reconnect with your own inner wisdom and strengthen the parts of you that can respond differently.
1. Discover & Rewrite Your Love Template
Bring the hidden patterns shaping your relationships out into the light.
We’ll explore how your early relationship experiences, attachment patterns and schemas have shaped what feels familiar in love, what you expect from relationships and how you respond when important emotional needs are activated.
The aim is not to blame the past. It is to make visible what may have been operating silently beneath the surface, so together we can begin intentionally rewriting the patterns that no longer serve you.
2. Recognise Your Schemas, Triggers & Coping Patterns
Learn to catch your patterns while they’re happening.
You’ll identify the schemas that become activated in romantic relationships and the ways you’ve learned to respond to them.
Whether your patterns involve anxiety, self-doubt, overthinking, people-pleasing, self-sacrifice, rescuing, shutting down or becoming overly focused on another person, you’ll learn to recognise these responses earlier and create space for a different response.
3. Understand Attraction & The Love Paradox
Become curious about who feels compelling and why.
We’ll explore the powerful relationship between schemas, familiarity, attraction and attachment, including why certain people or relationship dynamics can feel particularly compelling even when they may not offer the kind of relationship you consciously want.
You’ll begin distinguishing between attraction intensified by old emotional patterns and the qualities associated with healthier, more emotionally available connection.
4. Reconnect With Your Intuitive Self
Learn to hear yourself again.
Many women haven’t lost their intuition. Over time, they’ve learned to question it, minimise it or override what they sense in order to preserve a relationship or give someone another chance.
Through mindfulness and greater awareness of your internal experience, you’ll learn to slow things down, notice what your mind and body are telling you and reconnect with your Intuitive Self.
We’ll strengthen your ability to distinguish your deeper knowing from schema-driven fear, anxiety or wishful thinking, so your own inner wisdom can become an important part of how you navigate love.
5. Date Smart, Date Safe & Choose Wisely
See the person in front of you more clearly and protect your precious time.
We’ll get very practical about dating with insight and discernment.
You’ll learn to recognise red flags and green flags, including the more subtle early indicators of emotional unavailability, manipulation and narcissistic relationship dynamics that can be easy to rationalise or overlook.
We’ll also explore consistency, reciprocity, empathy, accountability, boundaries, pacing and emotional availability, so you become increasingly confident about screening unsuitable people out early and recognising the qualities worth moving towards.
6. Strengthen Self-Trust, Boundaries & Your Healthy Adult
Stay connected to yourself as you connect with someone else.
Rewriting your Love Template also means learning to respond differently when old schemas are activated.
We’ll strengthen your Healthy Adult so you can honour your needs, trust what you’re noticing, communicate boundaries and tolerate the uncertainty and disappointment that can be part of dating without abandoning yourself to preserve a connection.
You’ll build greater confidence in your ability to make relationship decisions that are right for you.
7. Build Your Capacity for Secure Love
Turn new awareness into a new way of relating.
Ultimately, we’re not only working on what you want to avoid. We’re helping you become increasingly able to recognise, choose and participate in healthy love.
You’ll develop a clearer internal compass for emotional availability, reciprocity, healthy interdependence, communication and genuine compatibility, while practising new responses as your relationships unfold.
The goal is not to never feel triggered or uncertain again. It is to leave Love Wisely with greater awareness, stronger self-trust and a deliberately rewritten Love Template that gives you a much better chance of creating the healthy, secure relationship you want.
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This is the work of Love Wisely: bringing hidden patterns into awareness, reconnecting with your inner wisdom and intentionally rewriting your Love Template so you can choose love from a very different place.
Your Enrolment Includes These Exclusive Bonuses
Because deep healing and self-worth are the foundation of choosing wisely.
Bonus 1. Healing Your Inner Child: Reparenting from the Heart.
In this mini course, you’ll discover how schemas develop and why the Vulnerable Child mode emerges in response to early abandonment and unmet needs. With simple, heart-centered practices, you’ll learn how to reparent yourself - offering comfort, safety and compassion to the parts of you that need it most.
Bonus 2.
Elevate Your Worth - Audio Lesson & Self-Hypnosis Recording
An exclusive audio designed to help you quiet your inner critic and anchor into a deep sense of self-worth. Relax into guided self-hypnosis and rewire old patterns, so you feel enough, exactly as you are.
Your Investment Option No. 1
The Love Wisely Group Experience
PLACES ARE LIMITED
Your Investment Option 2.
Group + Coaching Support
Is Love Wisely the right program for me right now?
It's definitely for you if:
- You have a history of getting involved with narcissists or emotionally unavailable men AND you really want to change that!
- You have a growth mind-set and are open to learning new ways to understand yourself
- You are ready to take action and implement what you learn
- You enjoy personal development and want to understand your relationship patterns in a whole new way
- You're tired of wasting time in dead-end relationships that go nowhere
- There are aspects to your personality which get in the way of you trusting yourself, putting yourself first and acting in your best interests (i.e., you are a self-confessed people-pleaser!)
- You are self-aware and reflective
- You are willing to be a group member who is respectful and non-judgemental
- You're feeling motivated for something new and you're committed to showing up for at least 50% of live calls.
It's not for you right now if:
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You’re currently in a crisis, trauma response, or unsafe relationship and need therapeutic or emergency support (see FAQs)
- You're suffering from a mental health condition which must take priority
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You’re looking for therapy or deep trauma processing (this is coaching, not clinical treatment)
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You’re hoping for a “quick fix” without doing any reflection or self-exploration
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You’re unwilling to explore the emotional patterns and beliefs that may be keeping you stuck
- You're more comfortable with 1:1 support rather than group coaching
More kind words from current coaching clients
"I feel more grounded and hopeful than I have in years.”
Kylie.S - UK
“This work helped me get my voice back. I used to over-function and lose myself in relationships, but now I know how to stay tuned in to who I am. That’s changed everything for me. Not just in dating, but in how I show up for myself.”
Group Member 2025
“The idea of schema chemistry completely changed how I understood my past relationships. It was like a light switched on. I’m no longer stuck in the same loop and I know what to look for going forward. The structure and the tools given and the grouo itself were so supportive and helpful”
Jodie H
"I’ve done a lot of therapy over the years, but this was different. Gemma helped me put all the pieces together and understand how my early experiences were still playing out in my dating life. I feel more grounded and hopeful than I have in years.”
Jen, Group member 2025
"I joined Love Wisely hoping I could unlock the reasons behind my past unsuccessful dating and relationship patterns. What I gained was so much more! Thanks to Gemma's guidance I have learned so much about myself and how my schemas were behind all of my relationship choices. I now have a greater understanding of myself and feel confident and excited that moving forward I can create a healthy relationship.”
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Still don't have the answers you were looking for? Feel free to contact me hello@drgemmagladstone.com
"I’ve done so much inner work already, what’s different about this?”
I get this. Many of the women in Love Wisely have reviously had some therapy, read several books on relationships and developed deep self-awareness.
But awareness alone doesn’t shift the emotional templates driving your choices in love. That’s where this program is different. We go deeper, into the patterns you didn’t even know were running the show - and help you gently rewrite them from the inside out.
“What if nothing can really change for me, what if I’m not meant to have the kind of love I want?
If you’ve found yourself repeating painful relationship patterns, it’s understandable to wonder whether anything can really change.
But these patterns aren’t proof that change isn’t possible. Often, they reflect a Love Template that has been quietly influencing attraction, attachment and relationship choices outside your awareness.
In Love Wisely, we bring that template into the light and work together to intentionally rewrite it.
Because when the pattern becomes visible, you have a much greater opportunity to change it and create something different in love
Your Investment Option No. 1
The Love Wisely Group Experience
PLACES ARE LIMITED
