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Love Wisely - Foundations

Self-Study Program (Early Access)

You can want a healthy relationship…

but still feel drawn to men who can’t meet you there...

Let's start changing that!

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Let's rewrite your Love Template and change the direction of your relationships.  A structured, schema-based program designed to help you understand the deeper patterns shaping attraction, chemistry, and relationship choices - so you can stop repeating unhealthy dynamics and begin moving toward healthier, more emotionally available connections.

If this pattern feels familiar, you’re not alone...

You might:

  • feel drawn to emotionally unavailable or inconsistent partners
  • experience strong chemistry that doesn’t lead to a healthy relationship
  • override your instincts to maintain a connection
  • stay longer than you want to
  • or find yourself asking, “Why does this keep happening?”

This isn’t random.

And it’s not simply about making better choices.

There is a deeper pattern shaping your relationships

Over the past 25+ years of working with women and their relationship patterns, I’ve come to understand that what’s often sitting underneath these experiences is something I refer to as your Love Template.

It’s a way of describing the internal map that shapes:

  • who you feel drawn to
  • what feels familiar and compelling
  • and how you respond in relationships

When this template remains unconscious, the same patterns tend to repeat - even when part of you knows it’s not what you truly want.

This is why understanding and beginning to rewrite your Love Template is one of the most effective ways to start shifting these patterns.

This is where that pattern begins to change

Love Wisely - Foundations is a structured self-study program designed to help you understand and begin shifting the deeper patterns shaping your relationships.

So you can:

  • step out of unhealthy or one-sided dynamics
  • stop losing yourself in connection
  • avoid unnecessary emotional pain
  • and move toward relationships that are stable, mutual and emotionally available

Here’s what begins to shift as you do this work

You begin to move from:

  • repeating the same painful relationship pattern
    → to clearly recognising what’s actually driving it
  • feeling pulled toward emotionally unavailable or unhealthy dynamics
    → to noticing those patterns in real time, before you become deeply entangled
  • overriding your instincts and second-guessing yourself
    → to feeling more grounded, steady and self-trusting in your decisions
  • hoping connection will eventually become healthy
    → to intentionally choosing relationships that are emotionally available, mutual and aligned with your wellbeing

The Love Wisely framework is designed to help you move from feeling confused about why this pattern keeps happening… to understanding your relationship patterns with far greater clarity, insight and self-awareness.

So instead of unconsciously repeating the same cycle, you can begin approaching dating and relationships in a more intentional, informed and emotionally grounded way.

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Introducing

A structured, psychology & schema-based program to help you understand your relationship patterns, recognise them as they’re happening and begin making more grounded, self-trusting decisions.

What you’ll learn (step by step)

We move through this work across 8 structured modules:

Module 1

The Pattern, The Pull and The Paradox

 

We begin by identifying what’s actually been happening in your relationships.

You’ll:

  • clarify your repeating relationship pattern (through a whole new lens)
  • identify patterns of replication across relationships
  • recognise the roles you tend to take on
  • understand the paradox of wanting one thing but feeling drawn to another

We also explore “romantic types” - and why what feels like a “type” is often part of the pattern itself.

Module 2

Your Love Template: The Unconscious Map You’ve Been Following

 

You’ll be introduced to your Love Template - your internal map for relationships.


You’ll:

  • map your current Love Template (first draft)
  • connect your past relationship experiences to this template
  • begin to see how your pattern is structured

You’ll also be introduced to the idea that deeper emotional patterns (schemas) are shaping this template.

Module 3

Why You’re Drawn to the Wrong People

 

Here we explore the psychological drivers behind your pattern.

You’ll learn:

  • what schemas are and how they form
  • how relational schemas show up in dating and relationships
  • how to identify your key schemas

We also introduce schema chemistry —
 why certain people feel so compelling, even when they aren’t right for you.

Module 4

What Happens When Your Pattern Gets Triggered

 

You’ll:

  • understand what triggers your patterns
  • recognise how you respond when they are activated
  • see how this influences your decisions and behaviour

This is where insight becomes practical and usable.

Module 5

Who You Become When You’re Dating

 

In this module, we explore your dating personas.

You’ll:

  • identify the roles you take on when dating
  • understand how they are shaped by your schemas
  • see how they can interfere with healthy connection
  • recognise how they may unintentionally sabotage opportunities

Module 6

The Emotional Patterns Driving Your Relationships

 

We take a deeper dive into common relational schemas and how they play out, including:

  • people-pleasing and other self-suppression patterns
  • low self-worth and defectiveness
  • abandonment
  • emotional deprivation

You’ll see how these shape what you tolerate, prioritise and expect in relationships.

Module 7

Intentional Dating (aka dating differently

without losing yourself)

 

You’ll learn:

  • how to recognise key red flags and green flag
  • how to correct your red flag over-ride system
  • what emotional availability actually looks like
  • how to identify unhealthy dynamics early on

We also cover:

  • narcissistic patterns and how to avoid them
  • a new dating mindset

Module 8

Rewriting your Love Template

 

You’ll be guided to:

  • revisit your original Love Template
  • identify what needs to shift and how to implement IRL
  • create a new internal map for relationships

This becomes your guiding reference point moving forward.

Everything you’ll receive

 

  • 8 structured modules (dropped weekly) - lifetime access
  • Short, focused, easy to follow lessons 
  • Reflection exercises and workbooks
  • A guided Love Template mapping process

✨ Early Access Bonus

For this initial round, you’ll also receive:

  • 2 live group Q&A sessions

These are an opportunity to:

  • ask questions
  • gain clarity
  • and feel supported as you move through the program

This is a one-time inclusion for early access participants only.

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Here’s how early access works

EARLY ACCESS INVESTMENT $447 (AUD)

Enrollments opens: Friday May 8
First Module released: Thursday May 21 (AEST)

Early Access enrollment will close shortly after the first module is released.  

After that:

  • the program will remain available
  • at a higher price
  • without the live Q&A sessions  
Enroll Now For $447

If this feels like the right next step…

👉 Join Love Wisely - Foundations

Rewriting your Love Template can change the course of your relationships!

 

There is nothing random about your past romantic relationships.

And once you begin to understand the pattern - and what’s actually sitting beneath it - you’re no longer caught in it in the same way.

Love Wisely - Foundations gives you the tools, insights and step-by-step guidance to begin rewriting your Love Template and shifting away from emotionally unavailable, unhealthy or one-sided dynamics, toward relationships that feel safer, steadier and more emotionally compatible.

But the impact of this work goes far beyond simply “understanding yourself.”

For many women, this work changes their entire approach to relationships.

It helps you:

  • recognise unhealthy dynamics earlier
  • stop overriding the warning signs you can already feel
  • avoid unnecessary heartbreak and emotional exhaustion
  • and save precious time by becoming far more discerning about who you invest in emotionally

In many ways, this work helps correct what I often refer to as the red flag override system - the tendency to ignore, minimise, rationalise, or push past your own instincts in the hope that the relationship will eventually feel safe or fulfilling.

And because schemas influence so many areas of life, the benefits of this work often extend beyond dating and relationships alone.

Many women find themselves becoming:

  • clearer
  • more self-aware
  • more boundaried
  • and more connected to themselves generally

For this initial Early Access release, you’ll also receive:

  • foundational pricing
  • 2 live group Q&A sessions with me
  • and the opportunity to move through the material gradually, at your own pace

There’s no pressure to rush through the course.

This is thoughtful, reflective work designed to support meaningful long-term change.

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About Dr. Gemma Gladstone

Hi, I’m Dr. Gemma Gladstone and I help women who are ready to change their relationship story for good! 

I'm a dating and relationship coach and schema therapist and was  formerly a clinical psychologist for many years in private practice. 

For 25+ years, I’ve helped women uncover the deeper emotional patterns - including schemas and attachment wounds - that silently shape their relationship choices, their self-worth and the way they show up in love.

I help emotionally intelligent, self-reflective women who are tired of repeating painful cycles with emotionally unavailable or narcissistic men.  Women who know they’re ready for something better, but just haven’t had the right map (yet!).

Through the lens of Schema Therapy and relationship psychology, I show you how to identify your relationships patterns, reconnect with you instincts and begin choosing love that feels safe, mutual, and aligned.

This work is deeply personal to me. I’ve seen firsthand how powerful it is when you can stops blaming yourself, starts trusting your inner wisdom and realise that things can change!