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Love Wisely: 

Break the Pattern. Choose Differently.

A 12-week group coaching experience for women ready to change their relationship story — and feel more secure, grounded, and clear in love.

In this unique coaching experience, you’ll explore the psychology behind your past relationship dynamics — and begin to re-orient your path toward something far more secure and nourishing.

Together, we’ll uncover the unconscious emotional patterns and core beliefs that have shaped your past relationship choices — not because you were flawed or broken, but because early experiences laid down a blueprint.

You’ll come to understand why certain relationships felt so hard to walk away from…
Why red flags were easy to rationalise…
And why you’ve sometimes silenced your own needs in the hope that love would feel safe.

Most importantly, you’ll learn how to change the story — with a clear, compassionate framework for moving forward.

Scroll down to see everything you’ll gain inside the program…

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Deeper Self-Awareness

Renewed Self-Trust

The Knowledge to Choose Differently

 

“If you’ve ever said ‘Why do I keep attracting emotionally

unavailable or narcissistic men?’ — you are in the right place!”

 

Does It Feel Like...

  • You keep attracting emotionally unavailable or narcissistic men — no matter how much work you’ve done on yourself?

  • You second-guess your instincts, only to realize (too late) that you were right all along?

  • You have walked on eggshells or lost your voice in past relationships — because you wanted (or needed) to keep the peace?

  • You mostly know what the red flags are… but for some reason you have dismissed or minimized them in the past

  • You’re smart, self-aware, and content in other areas — but love still feels confusing, disappointing, or disempowering?

  • Deep down, you’re starting to wonder: Can I really trust myself to choose differently next time?

What If You Could...

  • Finally understand the unconscious processes driving your relationship choices — and how to change them?

  • Feel confident, grounded and calm while dating — instead of anxious or self-doubting?

  • Recognize red flags or warning signs super early and actually act on them (without guilt)?

  • Trust yourself fully — even when things feel emotionally charged or uncertain?

  • Learn a step-by-step framework for dating with clarity and boundaries — without feeling like you’re performing or playing a role?

  • Identify & choose a partner who feels emotionally safe, present and ready — because you are, too?

 

“This isn’t about fixing yourself — it’s about finally understanding yourself in a way that changes everything.”

 

What would change if you truly understood yourself in love?

What if you could finally see the patterns that have shaped your relationships — not just intellectually, but in a way that lands and sticks?

What if you had the tools to do things differently — not out of fear, but from self-respect, clarity and emotional steadiness?

Imagine really knowing yourself:

  • Understanding why certain people trigger you

  • Seeing how your schemas have shaped your choices

  • Noticing the moment you start to override your instincts — and choosing a new response

In Love Wisely, I’ll guide you through a powerful relationship framework that blends psychological depth with coaching tools — so you can move through the world (and your relationships) with more clarity, calm and confidence.

This isn’t just about dating — it’s about learning to back yourself, read the signs clearly, and build the kind of connection that doesn’t cost you your self-worth.

It’s not about changing who you are. It’s about reclaiming the wisdom you’ve always had.

This Isn’t Surface-Level Advice - It’s About Deep Inner Work.

 

Love Wisely isn’t about tips, tricks or scripts to use on a date.
It’s not about making yourself more desirable or changing who you are to attract love.

Because the truth is:
You don’t need fixing.
You’re already a thoughtful, capable, deeply valuable woman with so much to offer the right person.

The real issue isn’t you.
It’s the layers of emotional conditioning, early learning and protective patterns that have shaped your relationship choices — often without you even realising it.

That’s what we explore in this program — not through judgement or pressure, but with compassion, insight, and a commitment to lasting change.

This is the work of unlearning what no longer serves you, understanding the emotional wiring beneath your choices, and reconnecting with the inner steadiness and wisdom that’s been there all along.

You’ll begin to see:

  • Why you’ve been pulled toward emotionally unavailable or narcissistic partners

  • How those patterns formed — and what keeps them alive

  • How to shift them at the core, so you’re no longer repeating what hurts

This isn’t about performing in love.
It’s about finally feeling safe in your own clarity.

Yes! I'm ready to do this now!

  

“You’re not the problem —your early emotional wiring has been quietly shaping your relationship patterns. That’s what we’ll untangle together.”

 

About Dr. Gemma Gladstone

 

Hi, I’m Dr. Gemma Gladstone — and after nearly three decades as a clinical psychologist, I now focus exclusively on coaching women who are ready to change their relationship stories for good.

For 25+ years, I’ve helped women uncover the deeper emotional patterns — including schemas and attachment wounds — that silently shape their relationship choices, their self-worth and the way they show up in love.

Today, I work with emotionally intelligent, self-reflective women who are tired of repeating painful cycles with emotionally unavailable or narcissistic men — women who know they’re ready for something better, but just haven’t had the right map.

Through the lens of Schema Therapy and relationship psychology, I guide women to finally understand their patterns, reconnect with their instincts and begin choosing love that feels safe, mutual, and aligned.

This work is deeply personal to me. I’ve seen firsthand how powerful it is when a woman stops blaming herself, starts trusting her inner wisdom, and realises she no longer has to settle.

Over the 12 weeks of Love Wisely, I’ll be your coach and companion — offering guidance, insight and support as you make meaningful changes that will stay with you for life.

If you’re ready to do things differently and finally feel clear, grounded and hopeful in love — I’d be honoured to walk that path with you.

What past clients have said

Lovely feedback from some of my 1:1 clients

Amelia, 41 - Melbourne


“Gemma’s style is warm, insightful, and never judgemental.  I felt seen and understood, which made it easier to be honest with myself. I learned how to spot red flags early, and I’ve walked away from dynamics I would have been stuck in or put up with in the past.”

 

- Soraya, 33


“Working with Gemma has really helped me finally understand why I always seemed to end up with emotionally unavailable guys. For the first time, I can see my patterns clearly and I have a plan on how to start changing them.”

 

- Anika, 46 - Sydney


"I remember before I started seeing Gemma I was in a place where I felt totally hopeless about my relationship prospects.  Things changed for me when I started to understand why I focused on some guys and disregarded others.  After walking away early from some dead-end 'situations' and thinking about things differently I am now 4 months into a relationship with someone who sees me."

By the end of our 12 weeks together...

 

You’ll walk away with:

  • A crystal-clear understanding of the emotional patterns and schemas that shaped your relationship history

  • Tools to recognize subtle (and not-so-subtle) red flags early — before you get too attached

  • A self-defined dating roadmap to help you feel grounded, intentional and empowered in your choices

  • A stronger connection to your intuition and an ability to trust yourself when something doesn’t feel right

  • The confidence to express your needs, hold your boundaries and stop abandoning yourself for love

  • A fresh, hopeful vision for what love can look like — and how to start filtering in emotionally safe partners

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“When you can see your patterns clearly, you can stop repeating them.

That’s when real change begins.”

 

 What's Included Exactly?

Love Wisely blends practical dating strategy with deep emotional insight, so you can finally start trusting and believing in  yourself again; spot important red flags and indicators early and honour your needs in love — without apology.  

You won’t be doing this alone.  In a small group format, together with like-minded women, you’ll be coached by someone who has spent nearly 29 years as a psychologist, with deep expertise in relationships, attachment, personality and schema-driven patterns.

This isn’t a passive program you’ll half-finish.  It’s a heart-centred, live coaching experience — structured to support your transformation in real time.  You’ll have the space, the tools, and the compassionate encouragement to finally reconnect with your inner wisdom — and rewrite your love story from the inside out on your own terms.  

This work isn’t just about dating differently.  It’s about changing your relationship with yourself for the rest of your life.

 

Bonus Session

Bonus 1:1 coaching session at the beginning of the program to help you think about your focus & goals for the program

Group Coaching

12-weeks of expert support & coaching delivered online -(Weekly 90-minute live group coaching calls) with Dr. Gemma and a group of like-minded women

Recordings

Replays of all sessions available via a private portal.  Easy access to all materials and recordings - access any time. 

Learning Tools

Worksheets, tools, and reflective exercises to keep you focused and guide your growth

Meditations

Bonus guided meditations to support Mindset Growth, Resilience, Self-Compassion and Inner-Child Reparenting. 

Facebook Group

Supportive group community for encouragement and connection

A Look at the Pillars We'll Be Working Through Together

Each of these core areas will be explored across our 12 weeks together — through guided teaching, group discussion, reflection tools, and real-time coaching.  As this is a (beta) Founding Round there will be flexibility and adjustments made along the way - nothing is set in stone.  Love Wisely is in it's Evolution phase!

Knowing Your Relationship Patterns

We'll begin with an honest look at past relationships — identifying patterns, themes, and key emotional dynamics (You can’t change what you don’t understand.)  

The aim is to uncover the emotional and psychological patterns that keep pulling you toward the same kinds of relationships.  We'll be learning how schemas and early experiences quietly shape who you're drawn to — and how to stop repeating what hurts.  We'll also be discovery our Love Template - how it was formed and how it has shaped past choices in love.  

Rebuilding Your Self-Trust

We'll be learning how to stop second-guessing and start listening to your instincts. We’ll explore how self-doubt, people-pleasing and guilt (and other learned coping behaviours) have interfered with your sense of self-trust — and how to come back to your own emotional truth.  

Harnessing Your Red Flag Detection

Here we'll explore how to recognise emotional unavailability and subtle narcissistic traits early — without overthinking or making excuses. You’ll learn how to see red flags sooner and take action that protects your peace. Here we'll connect the dots from the past to the present and get a new perspective on how & why you may have overridden your own wisdom in past partner choices.  

Owning Your Voice & Boundaries

Here we'll explore how we can express what we need without fear of pushing someone away. You’ll build the emotional muscle to speak up, hold your ground and honour your needs — even when it’s difficult.

Choosing Connection That Feels Safe

Here we'll explore how we can meet & date new potential partners from a place of greater self-worth, emotional clarity and calm. This pillar will help you apply everything you’ve learned, so you can filter in the right kind of partner — and stop settling for anything less than what feels secure, mutual and real.  This pillar will shape the discovery of your NEW re-written Love Template. 

Investment & Enrolment

Option No. 1

Standard 12-Week Group Program - Start Date Thursday 12th June, 7.30 pm (AEST)
 

Strictly limited places available

Split Payments

$810

3 Monthly Payments (Incl. GST for Australian Residents)

  • BONUS 1:1 Coaching Session

  • 12 x weekly 90-minute live group coaching calls

  • Weekly reflection tools, journaling prompts & exercises

  • Access to a small and supportive coaching group (max 8 women)

  • Schema-informed insight, dating strategy, and live guidance from Gemma

  • Guided meditations
  • Private Face Book Community
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Pay in Full

$2,420

Single Payment (Incl. GST for Australian Residents)

  • BONUS 1:1 Coaching Session
  • 12 x weekly 90-minute live group coaching calls

  • Weekly reflection tools, journaling prompts & exercises

  • Access to a small and supportive coaching group (max 8 women)

  • Schema-informed insight, dating strategy, and live guidance from Gemma

  • Guided meditations
  • Private Face Book Community
Secure My Place

 

Investment & Enrolment

Option No. 2

Standard 12-Week Group Program PLUS 1:1 Coaching Add-On.  

Start Date Thursday 12th June, 7.30 pm (AEST)

Strictly limited places available. 

Split Payments

$1,220

3 Monthly Payments (Incl. GST for Australian Residents)

  • 12-week Group Coaching Program (all inclusive)

    PLUS

  • 3 x private 60 min 1:1 sessions with Dr. Gemma (beginning, half-way & end of program)

  • Additional Voxer voice support during the program (Mon–Thurs)

Secure My Place

Pay In Full

$3,630

Single Payment (Incl. GST for Australian Residents)

  • 12-week Group Coaching Program (all inclusive)

    PLUS

  • 3 x private 60 min 1:1 sessions with Dr. Gemma (beginning, half-way & end of program)

  • Additional Voxer voice support during the program (Mon–Thurs)

Secure My Place

Is Love Wisely the right program for me right now?

Join the Founding Round and be part of something special

It's definitely for you if:

  1. You have a history of  getting involved with narcissists or emotionally unavailable men AND you really want to change that!
  2. You have a growth mind-set and are open to learning new ways to understand yourself
  3. You are ready to take action and implement what you learn
  4. You love personal development and want to understand your relationship patterns in a whole new way
  5. You're tired of wasting time in dead-end relationships that go nowhere
  6.  There are aspects to your personality which get in the way of you trusting yourself, putting yourself first and acting in your best interests (i.e., you are a self-confessed people-pleaser!)
  7. You are self-aware and reflective
  8. You are willing to be a group member who is respectful and non-judgemental
  9. You are eager and willing to provide ongoing feed-back and ideas about the program as it unfolds. 
  10. You are motivated and committed to showing up for at least 50% of live calls (notwithstanding emergencies etc). 

 

It's not for you if:

  1. You’re currently in a crisis, trauma response, or unsafe relationship and need therapeutic or emergency support (see FAQs)

  2. You're suffering from a mental health condition which takes priority

  3. You’re looking for therapy or deep trauma processing (this is coaching, not clinical treatment)

  4. You’re hoping for a “quick fix” without doing any reflection or self-exploration

  5. You’re unwilling to explore the emotional patterns and beliefs that may be keeping you stuck

  6. You're not really interested in contributing to the development of this founding round by providing feed-back and reflections
  7. You're more comfortable with 1:1 support rather than group coaching 
  8. You're not able to show up for the live calls at least 50% of the time

 

 

 

 

More kind words from current coaching clients

"I feel more grounded and hopeful than I have in years.”

Kylie, 39 - UK


“This work helped me get my voice back. I used to over-function and lose myself in relationships, but now I know how to stay grounded in who I am. That’s changed everything — not just in dating, but in how I show up for myself.”

 Monique, 38 - Sydney


“The idea of schema chemistry completely changed how I understood my past relationships. It was like a light switched on. I’m no longer stuck in the same loop — and I know what to look for going forward.”

 Jodie, 44


"I’ve done a lot of therapy over the years, but this was different. Gemma helped me put all the pieces together and understand how my early experiences were still playing out in my dating life. I feel more grounded and hopeful than I have in years.”

FAQs

Still don't have the answers you were looking for? Feel free to contact me [email protected]

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